Single for a year
Today I’ve met a personal goal—to be single for at least a year. I'd like to share about this. (Mind you, for the last 365 days, nobody has been banging down my door to date me—though I did have my “Sorry. I am not available,” speech prepared!) Since I was 15, I’ve been in one romantic relationship or another, with the longest time between relationships being around 3 months. I’ve been in 2 relationships that were over 5 years long and 5 relationships that were over 2 years long. I've had some really wonderful partners, but it was often the luck of the draw. I was casting a pretty wide net. A year ago, I had to end a relationship that was not healthy. I was scared of a lot of things, including being alone. I had been finding my value through romantic love, which meant my value always fluctuated. I felt that I needed to change myself to become whatever the other person wanted me to be. I now know that had the relationship not been so extreme, I pro...
